We are now entering the second part of the book, which is called: PARENTS ARE PEOPLE
We’re changing the focal length…
A single post for these two chapters that complement each other.
This time, we are talking about the parents’ feelings.
Because they’re valid as well, I would be an illusion to think that we can pretend permanently, and live without taking account our own feelings.
« We can act a little nicer than we feel, but not much. » Dr Ginott
To sometimes show our own feelings and limitations, is giving the other ones the opportunity to consider them.
« We don’t need a reason to feel what we feel. The fact that we feel it is real enough. »
Chapter 10, which speaks of protection, goes a step further in what it means for parents to accept their own feelings:
To express what we feel, to set limits by listening to our feelings, rather than force oneself, is a way for us parents to protect ourselves, and also to protect the child: protect him from the moment where we can’t stand it anymore, and protect him by showing him how to protect oneself.