We are now entering the second part of the book, which is called: PARENTS ARE PEOPLE
We’re changing the focal length…
A single post for these two chapters that complement each other.
This time, we are talking about the parents’ feelings.
Because they’re valid as well, I would be an illusion to think that we can pretend permanently, and live without taking account our own feelings.
“We can act a little nicer than we feel, but not much.” Dr Ginott
To sometimes show our own feelings and limitations, is giving the other ones the opportunity to consider them.
“We don’t need a reason to feel what we feel. The fact that we feel it is real enough.”
Chapter 10, which speaks of protection, goes a step further in what it means for parents to accept their own feelings:
To express what we feel, to set limits by listening to our feelings, rather than force oneself, is a way for us parents to protect ourselves, and also to protect the child: protect him from the moment where we can’t stand it anymore, and protect him by showing him how to protect oneself.