On the second read of “He’s provoking me!”, I notice that the majority of the first situations are about the child’s love tank.
In a simple way, the child, like anybody else, needs to feel good.
When he lives through a stressful situation, he expresses it however he can, often inappropriately:
screaming, complaining, getting angry…
and he needs for us to show him our love.
A physical contact produces ocytocine, which helps him feel better.
A look, an ear, some shared time…
The child that doesn’t receive what he needs might find solution in retracting to protect himself :
refusing physical contact, isolating in his room…
So, let’s give love to our children, show them that we love them.
Unfortunately it isn’t enough, but it helps !